This topic scared me away for a long time. Honestly it's just so touchy, and people are already so set in their mindset that it's very hard to present new perspectives to them. The thing with the subject of body count is this; we've already been conditioned with a double standard that doesn't allow us to change our views. Well, I'm about to dive into this shit head first. Keep an open mind and bear with me.
First off, what is a 'body count'? When not in reference to the amount of murders one has committed, 'body count' refers to the amount of sexual partners one has acquired throughout their sexual career.
For men, body count isn't a concern. Double standard allows men to have as high a body count as they please. There is no stigma attached to being a promiscuous male, although real-nigganess would HAVE to come into play (I mean, where are your standards if you're fucking EVERYONE?). Asking a dude his body count is almost always just a matter of curiosity. Truth is, the answer, no matter how high, nearly never matters to a girl. Personally, if I'm asking it's because I want to know how sexually responsible a dude is. Another thing to consider is that many dudes have lost count, so you're not guaranteed to get an honest or accurate number regardless. On the opposite end of the spectrum is a dude with a surprisingly low body count. Most of the time I find myself calling them liars or wondering if they can even fuck at all.
Now for us women, body count is an actual source of contention. We have to concern ourselves with opinion because that's what double standard has taught us. Our body counts are supposed to be low as per the lock and key scenario (a key that opens every lock is a master key, a lock that any key can open is a shitty lock). The problem is there's no defined number for an acceptable body count. So where one dude has said "I want a girl with a less than 10 body count" another dude is happier with a girl who has more experience. Asking a girl her body count opens a can of worms in most cases. You open yourself up to being lied to, or dissatisfied, or shocked, or disappointed. Most girls do lie about their body count. It's much easier to maintain the respect of a dude if your body count appears more 'acceptable'. The honest chick with the higher count, bless her heart, has to now listen to this dude fake-accept her count. "There's nothing wrong with that," gee, thanks. Asking the question alone implies that you care about that number, and of you care that means you're likely to judge this girl based on that number. Don't think it's that serious? Well, maybe not but that's the subconscious thought that passes through a girl's head when the question comes up.
Another aspect of this topic is the 'birds of a feather' rule. Generally speaking heaux are friends with other heaux. Why? That seems obvious. People who have things in common always draw together. However, this is not always true for groups of people and sexual history. I have friends with body counts like mine, lower and higher as well. Same goes for my male hoe friends, many of their friends don't have body counts like theirs. I'm not going to tell anyone not to judge on body count. That seems obvious to me. I have male friends who are bonafied hoes with triple digit body counts, whom no one calls a bad name, and female friends with body counts less than 5. Neither of them are any less awesome.
So what's the word? In my opinion, body count shouldn't even be brought into conversation with someone you're going to have sex with. The truth is, it doesn't indicate any concrete fact about someone. If you liked someone before you knew how many people they fucked, why does their body count matter? And if all you wanted to do was fuck them, it should matter even less. Fact is, we're all grown. So what? We've been having sex before meeting the person we want to spend the rest of our sex-filled nights with. Hate on a body count all you want, at the very least the sex is more likely to be better with someone with more notches on their belt.
Mine? I'm double digits.
The Articulate Bitch
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