I love hearing from my readers because it helps me keep them happy. Letters to My Him is your opportunity to be totally and completely honest about and to the man who occupies your mind. The one who you think about when you listen to love songs. The man you fall asleep with thoughts of, and wake in the morning wishing was laying next to you. The apple of your eye, the object of your affection. This man could be anyone. Your crush, a guy you're talking to, the best friend you have feelings for, your boyfriend, the father of your child... Anyone. Let's break the ice and show that despite our strength and the power of society's new double standard, we are still the soft on the inside beings they secretly desire.
To be fair, and to give you an example of what I want to inspire in you ladies, I'll begin with the first letter. Enjoy.
"Dear King,
I've waited so long for you. I dreamt of you every night, wishing every morning to sleep longer just to have you again. You are the man of my dreams.
Man after man has disappointed me, hurt me, and made me feel empty. I was so lost as I searched for you in all the mistakes I made, all my poor judgement, all my indiscretions and embarrassments. I asked myself where you were. Why I could feel you so near and yet still never find you. Now I know it was all worth it. All those past experiences were to make me strong enough to hold you down the way you deserve.
I adore you. You are perfect. Your flaws however many or few, are not flaws at all but places for me to strengthen you. I don't want to complete you, I want to compliment you. I want to be the missing link, the known unknown, the Queen on your chessboard. Let me be what you've always wanted and never had. Let me be your final step to the greatness I see in you.
That same greatness is my inspiration to be great myself. I always want to be deserving of you. A whole man deserves a whole woman so we each are so much more than each others' other half.
You make me feel royal.
Love, The Queen. "
All names will be kept secret of course. It will be completely up to you if you share the link with your 'him'. Let the love flow! Share how you REALLY feel without being judged or poked fun at by your home girls. Here's your chance baby girl... Let him know.
Articulatetoronto@gmail.com
The Articulate Bitch
Monday 7 January 2013
The Young Bul Complex
Oh, to be young again!
I remember being 18 years old and being so excited about growing up. Mind you, I already felt like I was grown. You couldn't tell me nothing. As good as we had it at that age, we probably ain't got shit on kids these days. The world is a different place now. Things that were important to us then are obsolete now. Technology has changed accessibility, music has changed, priorities have changed. A new creature has been created: the young bul.
The young bul (as I like to call him) is a specific breed of young nigga. This youngster has certain characteristics that set him apart from youngins who are growing up the same way we did.
1. They tend to be rather spoiled. The young bul has parents who are likely rather young themselves. They want their son to have all the things they themselves want or wanted. Although they may not blindly hand EVERYTHING to them, they do just enough to give their son a sense of entitlement. Now he expects most things to be handed to him. Material things hold no real value to him because he doesn't have to work for them. He knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.
2. They're girl obsessed. Maybe this isn't exclusive to the new generation of young niggaz, but the approach sure as hell is. There's this denial of the fact that I don't recall from my younger days. Firstly, the standards these young dudes set out for the women they see as ideal are wildly unrealistic and half the time they don't even know WHY certain standards are in place to begin with. Yet all the things they do so publicly are so clearly to attract the attention and interest of females. All while they play hard to get (which is retarded), as though "bitches ain't shit".
3. They desire a life they don't live. This may be true for us all, but generally we aim higher, for bigger and better things. We try to get up OUT the hood. We're doing everything in our power to NOT have to do the horrible things we do as products of poverty. These kids already out the hood, suburban paradise and all, yet they hear all the hood shit in music (which isn't an accurate representation of their reality), and try to live the lyrics. Essentially they spit in the face of their parents hard work and hustle backward just for the right to SAY they did hood shit.
4. They have an addiction to keeping up appearances. These dudes simply can not live within the realm of their reality. Everything gotta be designer. They have no job, may still be collecting from mom and pops, but you can't tell them they not balling. They buy things they can't afford to impress people they don't know or even like.
5. They always go too far and do too much. Arguments with these dudes are filled with Chief Keef-esque rebuttals and gone-too-far comments. Everything is a show, an extravaganza of sorts. They do it all to be seen and admired. Not knowing that the outside facade holds no substance. Essentially the image they spend so much time cultivating amounts to nothing. They don't and won't learn this until it's too late.
Just my opinion.
The Articulate Bitch
I remember being 18 years old and being so excited about growing up. Mind you, I already felt like I was grown. You couldn't tell me nothing. As good as we had it at that age, we probably ain't got shit on kids these days. The world is a different place now. Things that were important to us then are obsolete now. Technology has changed accessibility, music has changed, priorities have changed. A new creature has been created: the young bul.
The young bul (as I like to call him) is a specific breed of young nigga. This youngster has certain characteristics that set him apart from youngins who are growing up the same way we did.
1. They tend to be rather spoiled. The young bul has parents who are likely rather young themselves. They want their son to have all the things they themselves want or wanted. Although they may not blindly hand EVERYTHING to them, they do just enough to give their son a sense of entitlement. Now he expects most things to be handed to him. Material things hold no real value to him because he doesn't have to work for them. He knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.
2. They're girl obsessed. Maybe this isn't exclusive to the new generation of young niggaz, but the approach sure as hell is. There's this denial of the fact that I don't recall from my younger days. Firstly, the standards these young dudes set out for the women they see as ideal are wildly unrealistic and half the time they don't even know WHY certain standards are in place to begin with. Yet all the things they do so publicly are so clearly to attract the attention and interest of females. All while they play hard to get (which is retarded), as though "bitches ain't shit".
3. They desire a life they don't live. This may be true for us all, but generally we aim higher, for bigger and better things. We try to get up OUT the hood. We're doing everything in our power to NOT have to do the horrible things we do as products of poverty. These kids already out the hood, suburban paradise and all, yet they hear all the hood shit in music (which isn't an accurate representation of their reality), and try to live the lyrics. Essentially they spit in the face of their parents hard work and hustle backward just for the right to SAY they did hood shit.
4. They have an addiction to keeping up appearances. These dudes simply can not live within the realm of their reality. Everything gotta be designer. They have no job, may still be collecting from mom and pops, but you can't tell them they not balling. They buy things they can't afford to impress people they don't know or even like.
5. They always go too far and do too much. Arguments with these dudes are filled with Chief Keef-esque rebuttals and gone-too-far comments. Everything is a show, an extravaganza of sorts. They do it all to be seen and admired. Not knowing that the outside facade holds no substance. Essentially the image they spend so much time cultivating amounts to nothing. They don't and won't learn this until it's too late.
Just my opinion.
The Articulate Bitch
Tuesday 1 January 2013
Punishable Good Deeds
People, in general, tend to be blissfully unaware of themselves. They flutter blissfully through life unaware that their actions and intentions are as plain and obvious as the smile on their face.
I've heard it said that "no good deed goes unpunished". The concept of that statement, from what I gather, is essentially the same basis for "nice guys finish last". And while it is true that in life it seems that the nicest people have the hardest time, we all know those OTHER people. Those who only do nice things to be praised for them.
I have a special brand of dislike for these people. A good deed done for thanks is not a good deed at all. A good deed is done selflessly, with no intention toward receiving anything in return. Yet there are people, and we all know at least one, who will do nice things only to have leverage over you. That is why so many people refuse favors from others. They'll tell you straight up "I don't wanna owe nobody shit," and I can't wrong them.
Accepting a favor from someone, whether you asked for it or not, is risky business. But accepting a favor from one of these "fake good" people is very nearly the end of the world. They hold it over you forever, remind you of it at any given chance and gain a remarkably disproportionate sense of entitlement. Now you find yourself caught between wanting to punch them in the fucking face for being a dickhead and feeling like an ungrateful cunt. So what do you do? You nod and smile, take the shit they dish out, accept defeat and keep it moving. Why? Because you know what they will say the moment you show defiance; "that's how you're gonna act after I blah blah blah for you when you needed it most?". Ah! Now the truth comes out.
These people, are literally just biding their time waiting for the moment to get to use that line. Some of them are so bold they'll use it regularly on you just to keep you in place. But they play mind games superbly. They push and test your limits, seeing how much they can bend you until you break at their will. Essentially it's what I like to call Favor Slavery.
Favor slavery is the worst form of manipulation. There's probably a special place in hell for people who do this but perhaps the worst part is that they don't think anything is wrong with it. To them it is perfectly acceptable to hold someone ransom simply because they may have done something nice for them. Certain people are just satisfied to carry a sense of entitlement with them all though their days. They tend to be the ones who feel like the world owes them something anyway.
I've heard it said that "no good deed goes unpunished". The concept of that statement, from what I gather, is essentially the same basis for "nice guys finish last". And while it is true that in life it seems that the nicest people have the hardest time, we all know those OTHER people. Those who only do nice things to be praised for them.
I have a special brand of dislike for these people. A good deed done for thanks is not a good deed at all. A good deed is done selflessly, with no intention toward receiving anything in return. Yet there are people, and we all know at least one, who will do nice things only to have leverage over you. That is why so many people refuse favors from others. They'll tell you straight up "I don't wanna owe nobody shit," and I can't wrong them.
Accepting a favor from someone, whether you asked for it or not, is risky business. But accepting a favor from one of these "fake good" people is very nearly the end of the world. They hold it over you forever, remind you of it at any given chance and gain a remarkably disproportionate sense of entitlement. Now you find yourself caught between wanting to punch them in the fucking face for being a dickhead and feeling like an ungrateful cunt. So what do you do? You nod and smile, take the shit they dish out, accept defeat and keep it moving. Why? Because you know what they will say the moment you show defiance; "that's how you're gonna act after I blah blah blah for you when you needed it most?". Ah! Now the truth comes out.
These people, are literally just biding their time waiting for the moment to get to use that line. Some of them are so bold they'll use it regularly on you just to keep you in place. But they play mind games superbly. They push and test your limits, seeing how much they can bend you until you break at their will. Essentially it's what I like to call Favor Slavery.
Favor slavery is the worst form of manipulation. There's probably a special place in hell for people who do this but perhaps the worst part is that they don't think anything is wrong with it. To them it is perfectly acceptable to hold someone ransom simply because they may have done something nice for them. Certain people are just satisfied to carry a sense of entitlement with them all though their days. They tend to be the ones who feel like the world owes them something anyway.
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