So my friends (pretty much just Trap) and I are always discussing how crazy we have or tend to act in relationships. Check out the lovely ms Cyn Santana in a video about being a crazy girlfriend...
Thing is about being a crazy girlfriend is that as crazy as you want to be, your pride may sometimes get in the way of those momentary lapses in sanity that remind him who he's fucking with.
Why be crazy? Simple. Niggaz love a crazy bitch. Why? Because a crazy bitch cares and has no problem showing it. I wasn't always convinced there was any benefit to being an insane girlfriend until my closest guy friends explained why they stayed with many of the women they complained so much about. My homies have had females bleach their clothes, show up to their side chick's job, ring down their phones, break their video game consoles, destroy their phones and do all sorts of things you would assume would be deal breakers and leave these women single and lonely. But no such thing occurred, and all these niggaz not only stayed with these women but loved them all the same or sometimes more because of how crazy they are.
A crazy girlfriend cares. You flirted with a chick on twitter and she instantly blew up your phone about it. You thought it was something small and harmless, she doesn't see it that way. What's worse? That she overreacted or if she had no reaction at all, but simply did the same with some twitter nigga?
What would you rather? A girl who acts like nothing you do matters at all, or a girl who shows that the things you do affect her? I wasn't always sure, but I do see the value in being with someone who shows how they feel when you fuck up, no matter how big or small.
I used to have no reaction to anything my boyfriends of the past would do. Honestly being crazy takes a lot out of you. It requires you being observant of everything your man does and having a reaction for it. Now, let's not take it to extremes and think that we can get away with doing any level of insane shit with just any man. NO. Your level of crazy has to be relative to how long you have been with him and how strongly y'all feel about each other. 2 weeks into relationship and you still pee with the door closed does not warrant you smashing his XBox into oblivion for him getting a text from a girl that says "Wuddup?". You splitting rent and finding an earring in your bed does (it actually warrants a bit more).
Also, don't think you're allowed to be crazy at every moment every day. That's bullshit. No one wants to deal with someone who is a ticking time bomb. That's how girls get slapped.
Balance is key as with anything. Only be crazy when crazy is needed. The rest of your time should be spent being happy and enjoying all the dopest parts of being in a relationship with someone you genuinely care about.
The Articulate Bitch
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