Good Girls Get Good Things

All things considered, we as females can't help but want nice things. We love a nice bag, a bad shoe, perfect hair and on-point makeup. We can't help but want to look good outside because we'll feel great inside. Perhaps nothing, though, is as gratifying as receiving these nice things as a gift.

I realize saying "gift" implies that it's free, but to be honest that's not what I mean. In my definition of things, there are no real free gifts. You get presents from your friends on your birthday because you have value to them. You paid them in friendship. Nothing in this world is free, but not everything in this world is paid for in money either. In this case I'm talking about the difference between tricking and rewarding.

A trick (outside of the sex trade term) or bupz, as some of us say, is a dude who buys you things, pays for things, and spends his money on you without you performing wifey duties. Sex is not a wifey duty. Anyone can have sex, not everyone can be a wifey type. A trick isn't looking to build anything with you necessarily, he just wants to enjoy whatever it is you give him. So he doesn't expect wifey duties of you, and clearly doesn't mind spending on you. Generally we as ladies don't respect our tricks or bupz. Ask our friends how we refer to them. We don't even say their name, they're just "My Bupz".

Now, that's where tricking ends. A relationship (business or emotional) is a whole other ball game. Relationships become about rewards. It works both ways for males and females. It's all a give and take. You ride for him the way he needs you too and he rides for you and treats you the best way he can.

If you're his woman, you're probably taking care of him in some ways. You're feeding him and fucking him. You're rolling his piff, mixing his lean or whatever. You're showing him why he should keep you everyday. It's like a damn job for real. So why shouldn't he reward your awesomeness?

Why shouldn't he keep you fly while he's stuntin' on the world? "Match my fly" is more than a song lyric it's relationship advice. You would really rock Gucci head to toe while your girl was rockin' no labels at all? No. That's embarrassing. Especially if she's been so good to you. What kind of a man does that make you? Your girl is an extension and representation of you.

Y'all nodding and agreeing, ladies, but do you deserve nice things? Are you his rider or his ball and chain? Do you do for him without being asked, or does he have to nag you to be a good girlfriend? See, because only good girls get good things.

Loyalty is priceless. Nothing holds more benefit and value than a loyal woman. Before you disagree understand this: being loyal doesn't mean you're inferior in any way. It takes a special woman to stay loyal without a title, to remain loyal when betrayed, to accept an apology gracefully and still not get emotionally trampled by a man who's being a man. A loyal woman is the strongest kind.

Only a loyal female receives the best of things from her dude. So understand that doing for your man is not an automatic sign of weakness. If he treats you like shit and you stay, you've got the game fucked up. A smart bitch is loyal to a man who knows and respects what she is worth. He'll treat her well because she holds VALUE. So yes he'll buy her gifts and make sure she always looks good because he know that makes her feel good. About as good as she makes him feel.

Good girls get good things.

The Articulate Bitch